About
Diamoric
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Diamoric is an adjective and orientation/identity for the love/attraction of any kind by, of, for, between or involving nonbinary people that does not fit into a similar/opposite gender attraction dichotomy due to being a uniquely nonbinary experience of attraction. Diamoric is an identity for nonbinary people who feel that being nonbinary affects the way they experience attraction and/or the vocabulary they use to describe that attraction.
Diamoric Orientations are orientation/sexuality labels created specifically under the diamoric umbrella to describe a form of attraction felt by nonbinary people that exists outside of a similar/opposite gender attraction dichotomy. Some examples are enbian, nblnb, ceterosexual, nblw orientations and nblm orientations. However you do not have to identify with a diamoric orientation label to be diamoric.
Diamoric can be used for:
- a descriptor for nonbinary people who feel their nonbinary identity affects how they experience attraction towards any gender
- specifying that your attraction is outside of a similar/different gender dichotomy due to being nonbinary in nature
- as a prefix to identify your orientation as specifically diamoric and coming from a specifically nonbinary perspective (for example: dia-lesbian, dia-bi, dia-ace, dia-gay, dia-ply, etc)
Diamoric can also be used alone or as an add on on top of an existing identity to show that you are diamoric as well. You can be diamoric and sapphic, diamoric and achillean and diamoric and enbian!
Binary people cannot use diamoric as an orientation but can use it to refere to their specific relationships with nb people (so a binary man in a relationship with a genderfluid person cannot call himself diamoric but he can call their relationship a diamoric relationship)
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“But doesn’t that just mean that all nonbinary people who are not aroace are diamoric by default?”
No, not necessarily. Since part of the definition of diamoric is feeling that you’re experience with attraction is either a) a uniquely nonbinary experience, b) outside or incompatible with an similar/other gender dichotomy and/or c) affected in some way by your identity as nonbinary, not all nonbinary people resonate with the label.
A nonbinary lesbian who also identifies as a woman and/or is woman aligned might feel that their experience with attraction is not affected by being nonbinary or a uniquely nonbinary form of attraction because their lesbian attraction is the same as binary lesbians experience with attraction and so they dont identify with the diamoric exprience. While another nonbinary lesbian might feel like a lesbian but think that their lesbian experience is affected by being nonbinary in a way that makes it a uniquely nonbinary lesbian attraction and they might then identify as a diamoric lesbian.
An agender pansexual who doesn’t care about gender either for themselves or in the people they date might not feel that their gender experience affects their attraction because gender is not a factor for them, so they dont resonate with the term diamoric at all. Another agender pansexual might feel that being agender affects how they view gender in relation to who they are attracted to and how they feel attraction because their attraction to people of any gender never fits into a similar gender/other gender dichotomy and therefor they identify as a diamoric pansexual.
Only nonbinary people who feel like being nonbinary in some way affects their experience with attraction and therefor actively choose to identify as diamoric, are diamoric. As with all things its a label we can only assign to ourselves and should not be pushed onto all nonbinary people, it should only be used for nonbinary people who identify with it.
(Disc: this description uses the phrase “nonbinary” however all peope who identify outside the binary can use diamoric regardless of if they identify as under the nonbinary umbrella (this includes genderqueer people, genderless people, people with cultural genders, and any others who are outside the binary.)